Notes on "Modulove" kdrama and getting zero closure
In this issue, we have a heartbreaking kdrama on romantic love and the ways one can move on from a breakup with no real closure.
“Modulove” is here to play with my heart and I am ready for it.
Before all the craze that is “Lovely Runner”, there was once a Byeon Woo Seok who starred in the 2017 kdrama, “Modulove.”
This caught my attention months ago when TikTok threw it in my For You feed. When I read the plot (and yes – the ending), it tugged at my heart and I mentally took note to watch it soon. 278346 years later, I finally remembered it and searched like mad for where I could watch “Modulove.”
The good news: It’s on the Bilibili app.
The bad news: They only have one episode that’s subbed in English. 😭
I’ve seen this kdrama on YouTube, but the sub is in Spanish. Habla no español. 😭 Now I’m making it my life goal to find the whole kdrama that’s subbed in English because my grasp of the Korean language is still at the level of baby steps.
The plot: what I know so far
“Modulove” is a kdrama that depicts the story of Park You Na, the main female lead, who has been secretly in love since their college years with Byeon Woo Seok, the main male lead. She’s carried a torch for him all these years and finally got the courage to confess her feelings during a team dinner. Yes, she was drunk, but that started the ball rolling.
The two go on a cute date and all seems to be going well until their dinner date. Woo Seok excuses himself to go to the restroom and while You Na’s waiting, Woo Seok’s phone lights up and she sees that someone sent him a message about meeting later that same night. You Na’s caught off-guard because the name sounds familiar. She digs into her memory; there are flashbacks. Then it hits her: the sender is Woo Seok’s girlfriend from college!
The story revolves around their love triangle: You Na still has feelings for Woo Seok. Woo Seok is still pining for his ex-girlfriend, Lee Shi Ah, but decides to give it a try with You Na. Shi Ah is back after two years (I think?) of working abroad and it’s clear she still wants Woo Seok back.
This is a messy love story. Relatable, but still very messy. There’s also an element in this kdrama where Woo Seok goes to a bar called Modu. In that bar, three staff members listen to his story and give him advice. Perhaps it’s just me, but one should take their advice with a grain of salt.
Overall, the almost hour-long first episode of “Modulove” was entertaining enough to catch my attention. It’s a cute love story, but don’t expect it to be funny.
Now what do we do?
This kind of love story is relatable. Heck, I even lived through something like it. Maybe that’s why I’m so eager to watch the rest of “Modulove.” 😆
I already know the ending and I still want to watch the rest of it, all eight episodes. If you know where I can find all the episodes with English subtitles, please let me know. I’ll be forever grateful and you can have my mythical firstborn.
How do you move on from a breakup without proper closure?
Speaking of relationships, when it comes to the end of one, how do you move on? Especially when there’s no closure involved? In this issue, I’ve picked this question from Quora:
How do you move on from a breakup without proper closure?
I once dated a guy. Everything was great at the beginning. It wasn’t perfect, for sure. His ex-girlfriend was still in the scene. Another girl was chasing after him. It was a headache, but it was something I was able to handle. We were on the same wavelength. Our chemistry was off the charts. Until.
Until one day, like all relationships, it started to fizzle out. Things changed, no matter how much I wanted us to remain the same. We started arguing. He started communicating less and less. One day, he just… disappeared. No phone calls. No messages. Nothing.
Break-ups are bad enough as it is and to have your significant other suddenly disappear on you can really mess with your head. It was a rough time for me, those days I didn’t hear back from him. All those attempts at calling him and messaging him, asking him to talk to me. It ranged from concern to cajoling to upset to angry level 3.
After nearly a week of radio silence, he finally sent me a text message. It was something along the lines of, “Why do we need to talk when we already know where this is going?” After that, I never heard from him ever again.
There lies the answer to the question, folks: Realization. The realization that when your significant other decides to just suddenly leave you hanging, then that’s an answer enough: IT’S THE END OF THE RELATIONSHIP.
I think the best way to move on from that kind of breakup is to simply accept it. Them being MIA is a wake-up call to close that chapter of your life and start taking the steps to heal. I know it’s easier said than done, but we all need to start somewhere.
So go ahead and take those first few steps in moving on. Slowly leave the past behind by focusing on yourself. Yes, you can give yourself the time and space to hurt and grieve over the relationship. The keyword is “time.” Make sure you don’t wallow for too long.
Focus on yourself. Surround yourself with people who truly care about you and only want what’s good for you. At this time in your life, you don’t need more drama and toxicity. Focus on the good, the calming, the growing.
Everyone has a different time when it comes to complete healing. Go at your own pace, but remember: Don’t wallow in the hurt and pain for too long. You owe that much to yourself.